Monday, October 19, 2009
DIRTY-SAN DIEGO PART II
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
LESSON LEARNED- SAN DIEGO PART I
Just in case you think we play all the time or are even just trying to keep up with the Dolloffs, our recent vacation was actually had for practical reasons. Almost.
Dan had a conference down south and the rest of us hit the road with him to crash the party. I mean, how can you resist San Diego? So much to see for the kids... So much to revisit for the adults... (We honeymooned there). This was an opportunity worth taking.
But after a late and rough start, an even extremely later arrival time into our break-up-the-road-trip destination that night and us all coming down with some cold/flu variation, I was thinking twice.
Yet we survived and kept going. The next day we made it to our hotel and went to park. Except that you had to valet park where we were staying. Cool. Except that we were driving our mini-van that we and small children had been traveling and eating and maybe diapering in for a day or more. Yikes. It was a little embarrassing. Dare I say, it gets worse?
Dan had a conference down south and the rest of us hit the road with him to crash the party. I mean, how can you resist San Diego? So much to see for the kids... So much to revisit for the adults... (We honeymooned there). This was an opportunity worth taking.
But after a late and rough start, an even extremely later arrival time into our break-up-the-road-trip destination that night and us all coming down with some cold/flu variation, I was thinking twice.
Yet we survived and kept going. The next day we made it to our hotel and went to park. Except that you had to valet park where we were staying. Cool. Except that we were driving our mini-van that we and small children had been traveling and eating and maybe diapering in for a day or more. Yikes. It was a little embarrassing. Dare I say, it gets worse?
We'd brought some snacks with us, as I mentioned before, as well as some fruit and breakfast foods, so we didn't have to traipse around town to find someplace to eat the mornings we were there. So when we were unloading at the hotel, I started grabbing my grocery sacks of food and the grocery sacks of garbage and tissues from the car and my purse and my diaper bag and the toy bag and on and on and on. As I was getting the little luggage, Dan was telling the valet guy to not help us with the big luggage, mostly because he didn't want to have to dig around in one of the bags to find his wallet to tip the guy. I mean his wallet was probably in his backpack, which where is that? Inside with the little luggage or in the back with the big luggage? What a dilemma. We skipped out on the luggage help for the sake of his time and avoiding awkwardness for all.
And then our most precious cargo... our kids. Our very tired, cranky kids. I had to wake Calli from a fifteen minute nap or less to take her out into the hotel. She was throwing a fit, refusing to walk. I somehow managed to pick up her and Luke and all the little luggage and start walking in. Before we hit the lobby, Calli was screaming. CRYING. screaming. And everyone else was looking. STARING. looking. We get in the elevator and I look at the little luggage. There are my grocery bags of garbage and food, starting to split open. I look at the reflection from the elevator door. There are my dirty, crying children. I look around. There is my husband hauling all the big luggage. In his pile is my blue bag. I realize after years of airline travel, it has seen its days. The zipper on the outside pocket is broken. Flowing out are economy size packages of wipes and tennis shoes from Ross. The bottom corner is duct taped together. I was completely horrified.
Here we were in the Gaslamp quarter among young business travelers, perfectly groomed and most likely childless. Here we were a young family on quasi-vacation, looking like nomads, cheapskate nomads at that. I felt SO out of place. So much for avoiding the awkwardness.
When we got into our room, we dropped the stuff and gazed out the window at all the cool nightlife. Restaurants to try, streets to explore. And we just gazed. There was NO WAY we were going back out.
The next night, though, we did. We were quite excited to go back to Coronado Island. We loved it there before. That evening as we coasted over the bay on that stunning bridge
, the fog rolled in too. But it didn't stop us, especially Calli. Her shoes were off yards before water and feet from the car. She RAN the entire way to the waves. We played as long as we could stand it that evening and then tried to find a diner we had eaten at before. But we couldn't for sure and yet again, children who need to be fed and bathed and put to bed really don't have patience for searching for some hole-in-the-wall place with fantastic late night omelets and pancakes. We settled for a knock off.
The following afternoon, we headed to Old Town. We wanted to find the shop where we had purchased a souvenir five years before. The great news? We found it! The bad news? Strollers don't fit inside. So, Dan waited outside the tin store while I went in and looked. Then I waited outside while he went in and looked. We chatted about what to buy without being able to look at the goods together, which always leads to confusing conversations. "Did you see the one on top with clear lights?" "You mean the one with iridescent lights or clear ones?" "Was it to the right or left?" You get the picture. I went back in and bought a few small items from a woman who I'm sure thought I was ridiculously indecisive or trying to shoplift or suffering from some kind of memory or attention disorder. I proceeded outside to find my daughter eating DIRT. She was completely filthy. I regret that my camera just didn't quite capture the whole thing.
Bottom Line: It is a bad idea to try to recreate your honeymoon with your kids.
Our family, however, had blast together. My next few posts will prove it. In the meantime, enjoy more from our evening at Coronado. (The fog really was insane that night. You can see it in our pictures.)
Saturday, October 10, 2009
I JUST HAD TO
I am tired of my paragraphs getting cut off with that old template. Changes made, changes coming...
I just LOVE the beach. Drawing inspiration from that...
Monday, October 5, 2009
HOW SWEET IT IS TO BE LOVED BY YOU
Soda fountains, sweet shops, and s'mores. YUM. What's a family gathering without good food. (Um, does candy count as food?) More from MT, mostly in downtown P-burg.
Friday, October 2, 2009
A BREATH OF FRESH AIR
We wound to the tip top of the harsh Rockies and found rolling green hills. And for a brief moment, I feel like I’m home. Montana—the one place where it feels the speed limit is set too high. Seventy miles per hour on those open highways is just not needed.
The life there is simple but full. Moving, organic.
I love how you can stand and feel alive, knowing water is flowing beneath your feet. I love how you can look out a very black night, but then move your gaze upward and realize you are far from alone. I love how the trees grow so straight and perfect, easy on the eyes.
What a beautiful getaway.
What a beautiful getaway.
Thursday, October 1, 2009
HAPPY FIFTH
On a not so summery day in August, we celebrated our wedding anniversary by driving our kids and almost five-year old niece to what she called, “Hannah Montana.” The drive went smoother than thought and sure enough when the moon came out, the kids went down.
But not for long.
On days when Calli is overtired, she can wake up in the middle of the night completely hysterical. Definitely not asleep and not totally awake, just crying, yelling, inconsolable. And the worst part is she can stay that way for a long while.
So when she started to stir in her car seat and mutter unrecognizable words, I began to panic. NO WAY ARE YOU WAKING UP THE OTHER KIDS IN THIS CAR!
I leaned back and tried to soothe her. Not helping. I climbed in the back seat to where I could see and talk to her better. Didn’t work. Out of desperation, I (don’t report me) put her on my lap and buckled her in. Come on girl. It is late and we are only 45 minutes away from our stopping point for the night. NO WAY ARE YOU WAKING UP THE OTHER KIDS IN THIS CAR!
Too late.
Luke gets going and keeps going too. Aah, the crying chorus. A personal favorite of mine, especially in the car.
Though I can’t remember exactly now, somehow I was situated (since I was holding Calli) that I only had one free hand. And both of my children needed it. The only way I could get Luke to stop crying was if I gently rubbed his face. Thing is, that’s exactly what Calli needed too. So I’d get Luke to calm down and move my hand over to Calli and he’d start back up again. I’d move it back over to Luke and then she’d go on. Wow.
But not for long.
On days when Calli is overtired, she can wake up in the middle of the night completely hysterical. Definitely not asleep and not totally awake, just crying, yelling, inconsolable. And the worst part is she can stay that way for a long while.
So when she started to stir in her car seat and mutter unrecognizable words, I began to panic. NO WAY ARE YOU WAKING UP THE OTHER KIDS IN THIS CAR!
I leaned back and tried to soothe her. Not helping. I climbed in the back seat to where I could see and talk to her better. Didn’t work. Out of desperation, I (don’t report me) put her on my lap and buckled her in. Come on girl. It is late and we are only 45 minutes away from our stopping point for the night. NO WAY ARE YOU WAKING UP THE OTHER KIDS IN THIS CAR!
Too late.
Luke gets going and keeps going too. Aah, the crying chorus. A personal favorite of mine, especially in the car.
Though I can’t remember exactly now, somehow I was situated (since I was holding Calli) that I only had one free hand. And both of my children needed it. The only way I could get Luke to stop crying was if I gently rubbed his face. Thing is, that’s exactly what Calli needed too. So I’d get Luke to calm down and move my hand over to Calli and he’d start back up again. I’d move it back over to Luke and then she’d go on. Wow.
Finally, she woke up enough to make a little sense. Or at least listen to it. I began a conversation that could have been written for Jack on Will and Grace (Don’t report me for that either. I promise I kicked that habit long before the show went off the air.) —insanely fast, a little childlike and quite comical. I just simply started talking. Anything that came to my mind. A beautiful distraction.
“Hey Calli, we’re driving. We’re driving on a road. Do you see that the road has lines on it? I see white lines on the road. Do you see white lines on the road? (I did not pause for a second or leave room for her to answer. I couldn’t let there be any chance she could start crying again.) I see yellow lines too. The lines are broken up. Do you see the broken lines on the road? I see green trees. Do you know what else is green? The signs by the road are green. Do you know where we are going? We are going to Aunt Ruth’s house. But Ruth’s not there. She’s out of town. She lives by the temple. I see the temple. I see the top of the temple. Do you remember what is on top of the temple? This temple is by the water. I see the water. Do you see the water? It is moving. I see the lights on the road. I see the red lights. Oh, now they are green. Now we can go. We can keep going to Ruth’s house. We are going to sleep there. Except Ruth’s not going to be there. Remember how I said Ruth’s not going to be there? But we’re going to be there any minute. I can see her house. Can you see her house? We are turning by her house.”
It went on like that for a SOLID forty five minutes. It went on like that while I sat squished between an infant car seat and luggage, with a back twisted funny so I could fit, while holding my toddler and (remember) using my one free hand to soothe my baby. Exhausting. Physically hard it was, but I think it was worse to be so spastic. By the time we got there, my brain was worn out too.

I guess it doesn’t get any better than that.
“Hey Calli, we’re driving. We’re driving on a road. Do you see that the road has lines on it? I see white lines on the road. Do you see white lines on the road? (I did not pause for a second or leave room for her to answer. I couldn’t let there be any chance she could start crying again.) I see yellow lines too. The lines are broken up. Do you see the broken lines on the road? I see green trees. Do you know what else is green? The signs by the road are green. Do you know where we are going? We are going to Aunt Ruth’s house. But Ruth’s not there. She’s out of town. She lives by the temple. I see the temple. I see the top of the temple. Do you remember what is on top of the temple? This temple is by the water. I see the water. Do you see the water? It is moving. I see the lights on the road. I see the red lights. Oh, now they are green. Now we can go. We can keep going to Ruth’s house. We are going to sleep there. Except Ruth’s not going to be there. Remember how I said Ruth’s not going to be there? But we’re going to be there any minute. I can see her house. Can you see her house? We are turning by her house.”
It went on like that for a SOLID forty five minutes. It went on like that while I sat squished between an infant car seat and luggage, with a back twisted funny so I could fit, while holding my toddler and (remember) using my one free hand to soothe my baby. Exhausting. Physically hard it was, but I think it was worse to be so spastic. By the time we got there, my brain was worn out too.
What about my niece you say? Slept through the whole thing.
Miracles do happen.
As we opened the car door in Aunt Ruth’s driveway we, all five us, were wide awake. The clock was near midnight and in a no time, Mackenzie (my golden niece) was climbing a pole in the basement and Calli was singing show tunes at the top of her lungs. Energy, anyone?
But obedient Mackie followed her mother to bed (I told you she was golden) and Dan took Calli in a room upstairs to calm her down. I stayed in a room in the basement to feed Luke and put him to bed. So that night Dan and I didn’t even sleep in the same bed, same room or even on the same floor. It doesn’t get any better than that. Happy Anniversary.
Thankfully, my gracious in-laws took the kids one night when we were in Hannah’s land and we snuck away enjoying ghost town architecture and yummy saloon food.
As we opened the car door in Aunt Ruth’s driveway we, all five us, were wide awake. The clock was near midnight and in a no time, Mackenzie (my golden niece) was climbing a pole in the basement and Calli was singing show tunes at the top of her lungs. Energy, anyone?
But obedient Mackie followed her mother to bed (I told you she was golden) and Dan took Calli in a room upstairs to calm her down. I stayed in a room in the basement to feed Luke and put him to bed. So that night Dan and I didn’t even sleep in the same bed, same room or even on the same floor. It doesn’t get any better than that. Happy Anniversary.
Thankfully, my gracious in-laws took the kids one night when we were in Hannah’s land and we snuck away enjoying ghost town architecture and yummy saloon food.
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